Michaela Kennedy
4 min readMay 7, 2022

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Are you living life purposefully or conditionally?

Choose to live your life with purpose
Image by Gerhard G.

Living life purposefully is more than making a plan and sticking to it. Finding clarity on which direction you choose on a daily basis takes more than simply wanting to and struggling to reach the goal. Yes, desires are important. Yet when we finally have the courage to self-reflect, to step back from the momentum of judging everyone and everything around us, we start feeling the hints of what it means to live purposefully.

Conditional living of life happens when we seek out good conditions to look at so that we respond with a good feeling, depending on situations or other people’s actions for our relief, a happier mood, feeling satisfied, and so on. Judging good or bad what we’re observing traps us because it makes us think, you need only good conditions in order to feel good.

Choose thoughts with purpose, not through reaction

Achieving solution-facing, good-feeling alignment despite outside conditions frees you to the entire spectrum of life, to what you want and who you want to share with on this planet. Riches appear for you in the most unlikely places. When you discover them, wow!

Then a myriad of magnificent things is possible to be discovered everywhere, even in the direst of circumstances.

Imagine you are on a treasure hunt and all the treasures are just laying on top of the ground for everyone to see. It then just becomes a mad dash to see who can elbow each other out of the way to scoop up the treasures. It’s similar to what you see on a lot of popular reality shows these days. The focus on emotional conflict, even in reviews, is a common example of how many of us allow conditions outside ourselves to rule our emotions.

Living life purposefully is choosing feelings first, not conditions

Consider the satisfaction factor in discovery. Think about the treasures being disguised and hidden where only really intuitive tuned in people can find them. Imagine yourself tuned in. Imagine others tuned in, too. Imagine watching the discovery unfold, for yourself and others, of these treasures, and measure the satisfaction factor. Now you are starting to focus on what can be, rather than what is not.

When we’re on a path of adventure, we never say, “I want the treasures to be obvious.” We just say, I want treasures. We know for sure that the wonderful treasure called satisfaction is in so many places that we don’t allow because we’ve already made up our mind, “There’s no treasure here.”

“There’s no treasure here” is a pre-conceived condition

If I believe there’s no treasure here, I’m not going to find one. But if I believe treasure unfolds everywhere, it might be worth eight hours of hunting to find it. When I find it, all that fun hunting is going feel worth it.

I heard someone the other day complaining about the new neighbors who moved in and what a terrible conversation she had with them. I was astonished, because I find treasures in every conversation. In every conversation we can find something that has not been said before or something that we did not understand before, every single time. Living life conditionally is perpetuated by reacting to outside influences or acting to get reactions from others. It becomes the difference between a mediocre life and a treasure-rich life — treasure in relationships, in health, and in a satisfying lifestyle.

Living life purposefully starts with choosing to focus on happy thoughts

Do you have a happy game that you play? I do. I like having a happy game because it helps me to focus and refocus on what is most important to me in my life. And what is most important to me is how I feel. Better feelings attract happier people, happier situations. I can support more people on their path.

We humans, especially here in the West, have been taught our whole lives to look at conditions outside ourselves and judge them. We’ve been taught that the subject matter is most important. This is not true in the broader scheme of getting clarity. The story line is not important. We needn’t wait until we leave our bodies to recognize this.

Feelings arise from our focus. When we practice relaxing enough to appreciate, to look at what is flowing well in our lives instead of pointing out what we disagree with, to really care about how we feel, these are the steps towards better clarity towards finding solutions, towards creating positive abundant momentum.

Try a Happy Game instead. Sit down with your journal for 10 or 15 minutes and choose to write only only satisfying thoughts. No venting, just Writing down thoughts that bring you to a better feeling. If it is difficult to do, go general. A sunny day. Rainbows. Cute puppies. Blue butterflies. Anything that allows you to let go of the anger, sadness, sarcasm, criticism, even judgment of the chronic pain.

Don’t worry, the story line will still be there. You can always go back to that if you like. The more you choose for yourself a better feeling, the more you will find inspired action.

Not a moment of our lives goes by that is not rich with treasures that we can uncover. If I suffer from boredom, I are not in sync with my broader perspective. Confusion is me not in sync with my broader view towards clarity. Lethargy and complacency is me not being in sync with my inner, greater being.

We have an infinite variety of good and negative thoughts to choose from in any given moment. When you practice choosing a good thought — like blue butterflies instead of angry at some random insult — you start feeling stronger. You start becoming more confident. You are ready when a real emergency strikes. You are now increasing your momentum towards living life purposefully.

In joy,

Michaela xox

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Michaela Kennedy

Certified #successcoach and #lifecoach — Ready to unleash your intuitive power? Reach out, learn easy steps to create positive momentum! thevisionaryheart.com